Tuesday
Mar202018

A letter to my future self....(20 years from now)

Dear Isobel (20 years from now),

Well, Isobel, I truly hope you are looking back on the last 20 years with a sense of pride and accomplishment. I know life before this 20 year period had been difficult and uncertain. I know you couldn't see how things were going to get better. 

Isobel, I hope you have found happiness. I hope you have found someone to share your life with who respects you and shares your dreams.

I hope that you can see that your children are happy and successful adults. I hope that they are working in jobs they enjoy, with partners they love and to whom they feel equal and appreciated. 

I am sure that by now you have worked out what you want to do with your life so that you feel productive and self-fulfilled. I know that by now you will be living your dream where you are not working the 9-5 grind. You have found a way to make a living that is purely dependent on yourself. I know you have it in you! 

You are not looking back on the last 20 years with regret and with 'if only..'s I know you are looking back amazed at what you have accomplished. These last 20 years have not been a stagnant waste of time like you have felt some of your life has been. What an amazing 20 years it will have been!!

I hope you are still running and showing people what older women can do. Age is but a number and I know you have many more running achievements in you! 

You are fierce, you are proud, you are YOU!!!!

love, 

Isobel.

Saturday
Mar172018

How do you know someone loves you, even if they don't say it?

Sometimes I think all the 'I love you' statements are so over-done that they lose their meaning. I am not against saying it, but I think it holds more meaning when said less frequently. 'I love you' is actually a very deep and meaningful statement; it should not ever be throwaway!

So, onto the question; how do we know if someone loves us if they do not say it? I think love is shown in the little things people do for you; not the big ostentatious statements like flowers and gifts, etc. Anyone can shower money on you, but can they invest their most precious resource (time) in you? That is the question!!

The little things I am talking about are:

 

  • random texts to show they are thinking of you,
  • responding to your texts or calls in a timely manner,
  • checking in to make sure you are ok,
  • a hug for no reason,
  • listening when you talk (and not just waiting for their turn to talk),
  • making time to hang out with you,
  • sharing their innermost fears, hopes and dreams,
  • not judging you when you act silly or do the wrong thing accidentally,
  • being there when you need a shoulder to lean on, metaphorically or otherwise,
  • cooking a meal for you,
  • eating your meal even if you've messed it up,
  • smiling at you,
  • offering to help you before you even need to ask.

 

This list is potentially endless!!! Have you got any ideas? Please add them to the comments below!

Izzy :)

Thursday
Mar152018

Is it better to feel everything or nothing at all?

This is a tricky question that I have pondered before, more related to the question: Is it better to have loved and lost or never loved at all? Sometimes, when I am feeling strong painful emotions I definitely would rather not feel anything. I would much prefer to avoid such painful feelings. 

I recall a period of my life where something emotionally devastating happened to me. Someone I love very deeply hurt me profoundly. I have heard the term 'heartbroken' before and thought it was a trite, throwaway description. Let me assure you, it is not. My heart broke and I actually felt the pain in my heart. It was excruciating. The agony would radiate from my heart through my whole body. I was not sure I would survive the experience. In such instances, I would rather feel nothing at all.

However, the flip side of not feeling a painful experience would be that I would not get to feel joy, happines, gratitude and a multitude of other positive emotions. Emotions that feed and sustain me, that make me feel life is worth living. Without such positive feelings life would be very boring indeed!

Thus, my conclusion must be that I would prefer to feel everything. Just as in runnning where we cannot have the thrill of bombing downhill without the uphill slog, we cannot enjoy the highs without the requisite lows. The joy of life cannot be appreciated without having felt the pain of rejection, death, sadness or any other negative emotion. 

Without the variety of feelings, life would be a bland existence. We must take the bad with the good. Unfortunately. 

Saturday
Mar102018

A student example

Here is an example of a journal entry from one of my Grade 6 students. I thought it was amazingly insightful from someone so young.

Saturday
Mar102018

A new journal!

I have decided to add something new to my website! I am a teacher, and everyday I get my students to write a journal entry. Each day, I give them a (hoepfully!!!) thought-provoking idea or clip to watch, then have them write a response to it. My students have challenged me to also write a journal entry each day.

I have decided to use my website to write them and then share them to a wider audience. They are my thoughts and opinions on an issue, so you may not always like them or agree wtih them...or you might! Either way, please add your thoughts! I look forward to hearing them!

I hope you enjoy my musings :)

Isobel

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